Today is Tuesday Demystifying Diva day. Although we skipped last week’s episode, we are back this week, and hopefully every week thereafter. Yes, it’s true…Silk, Kathy, Feisty, and yours truly really do like each other that much. Chew on that one, boys.

Onto our dilemma de jour: Ruth Of Freudian Slippers recently asked a question about intellectual compatibility, which led to the eventual choice for today’s topic: What does a woman want from a man?

Now this is one question that will get a different answer from virtually every lady who dares to answer, and I’m not feeling very eloquent at present moment, so I’m gonna scrape up a draft and post it. Next week, hopefully, I’ll have more abundant estrogen for Diva Day…

Hmmm. I want lots of things. On a superficial level, I would say that a good body with muscles in all the right places, a sexy smile, and regular grooming practices are highly important. Let’s put a little emphasis on the hygiene, shall we? Heh. Speaking to a more gutteral level, since I’m obviously all-sexed-up most of the time, a man should place great importance on pleasing his lady in the sack. This is very much appreciated and reciprocated. Yet as Skippy often says, those are topics for other days. (N.B. to residual visitors who came here from this Fleshbot post, go visit Skippy. Link him. Love him.)

Methinks though, that I should be getting to the point now, which is that from my perspective, the single most important thing in a relationship is not how much you have in common, or whether the male and female are intellectual and/or physical equals. Rather, the gravamen lies in how a couple handles their differences, and a necessary threshold examination is how well a couple’s respective negotiation styles move them towards (or away from) a resolution. For example, an Avoider and a Talky-Feely Type won’t resolve arguments, and you’ll find examples of both types in males and females. Avoiders tend to either physically avoid their partner, which never solves a disagreement, or they are dismissive of the relative importance of their partner’s concerns. Preconceived baggage from prior relationships tends to accentuate these polarized opposites. Avoid this crap at all costs, gentlemen… never just give into a woman’s views because you just want her to shut up. That only leads to resentment and fewer blowjobs for you.

Anyhoo, since I’ve gone and resorted to a blowjob discussion, I’ll cut this post short while things are on the up-and-up. More Divas next Tuesday!

UPDATE: The most realistic-wish-of-the-day-award goes to Kathy, followed by a slighty pickier Feisty, and a surprisingly high-maintenance Silk to finish the demystification process. Of course, I am truly beyond repair. Heh.

UPDATE DEUX: Bruce thinks he has the whole thing solved in a nutshell. Riiggggght.