Comments on: Let's Get Drunk And Screw.

By: Tulip

Tulip — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

Two years ago I found myself on the dating scene after a 10 year marriage. I married young (22) and did not have alot of partners before my husband. Since the end of the marriage, I have had one 10 month relationship and the rest much shorter few weeks type thing. I have had causal sex on occasion. Like you, never felt great about it.

But here is a question to ponder:

Friends with privileges.

My relationship with “G” ended mutually 8 months ago after 10 months. He remains a good and loyal friend (when I returned home to find I had been robbed last November, he hopped right in the car for the 3 hour drive to help me clean up, install new locks, etc). We speak nearly every day and openly discuss any topic (he has a quasi girlfriend and I hear details and he hears particulars of my dating adventures). We work as friends. We were a horrible, dysfunctional couple with a capital D.

I was in town to visit this past weekend, minding my own business in the shower — and turned to find him there. We were very good at the shower sex. Anyway, we do that from time to time. I’ll siddle up naked in his bed… that sort of thing.
Maybe once a month.

Why?

Because it is nice, it is safe, it is comfortable and comforting. I cannot stress enough we have NO interest in a relationship. We have alot of affection and respect for one another. I don’t consider him a fuck buddy, because there is an emotional connection for us. I guess our recreational sex at this point is an emotional hydrid between playing tennis and watching old home movies.

Anyone with similar experience?

By: Christina

Christina — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

Sadie, you scored on this intellectual and well thought discourse.

I was apprehensive about the topic, but am well impressed with the manner you and the ladies have handled the discussion.

; )

By: puddleglum

puddleglum — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

friends with privileges are an interesting topic in their own right. While they fall slightly outside of the casual sex, it is rare that you find someone that can truly maintain this kind of relationship. For those of us back on the dating scene, they can be wonderful, however the margin for disaster is very high.

By: silk

silk — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

Hunni your just bloody marvolous, you explain us ladies so very well.

and to Tulip, to be honest i think the ‘friends with benefits’ thing is a whole different level than casual sex because there is some sort of bond there..but i think that might just be a whole other topic right there.

By: Kathy

Kathy — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

great job, sadie! it’s always good to have a wee bit of a biology refresher course!

By: Ruth

Ruth — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

I think reasearch shows that in a room full of people a man will be attracted to about 95% of the women, while the women will be attracted to like 20% or less of the men. I forget the proper statistics. That explains some of the casual sex thing.

By: bruce

bruce — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

Wow, even scientists!?!? Do they have sex too?

By: Cake Eater Chronicles

Cake Eater Chronicles — Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000

Two To Tango

So, having turned this into a weekly feature, the Demystifying Divas are at it again. And this week’s topic is casual sex. When we were discussing this topic via email, the general theme that arose was how women just aren’t…